I’ve practiced Taekwondo for about 10 years now (and judo for 7), and the first of 5 Tenets of Taekwondo is Courtesy. Before and after leaving the tatami, as well as before and after a sparring/randori match, you bow as a sign of respect. You respect the knowledge you will learn on that floor, your instructors, and your fellow students and opponents.
Even if you have a difference in opinion with an instructor, it is your responsibility to honor that instructor on the mat and then courteously and respectfully discuss the difference of opinion one-on-one at a more opportune time. I also think it is important for the instructor to observe the same level of courtesy. At no point should the instructor “show up” or “make as an example” a student in front of other students.
The same goes for social media. The blogs that I subscribe to all have at least two things in common:
They are relevant and well written, and
They are courteous in presenting their ideas even when expressing a contrarian view.
Responsibility for showing courtesy does not reside with just the blogger. Honestly, I am shocked when it comes to the attacking/accusing/prejudicial rhetoric that can appear in some comments. I sometimes will not reference a blog post, or seemingly innocent YouTube video, because of the profane or prejudicial comments. I wanted to use the Mr Miyagi video clip where he teaches Daniel how to bow as part of this post, but I couldn’t do it because of the foul language used in one of the comments. Someone’s discourteous comments tainted a video with a fun lesson that always makes me reminisce.
In regards to Facebook (and YouTube videos or LinkedIn group discussions), keep those comments clean!! I love sports, and I still like getting different viewpoints by reading the comments on sport team fan pages. However, some people think it paramount to litter their insightful comments with profanity or personal prejudices…or they flat out refuse to acknowledge the competence expressed from an opposing viewpoint.
In regards to Twitter…
NO SPAM! I truly want to develop depth with these emerging online relationships. Therefore, I like knowing what you do for a living, what you do for hobbies, your likes and your pet peeves. If you have a product or service you are proud to represent, I am happy to know…and in some cases to endorse. I hope my own followers extend me some grace when I occasionally promote the Pulse Analytics product. However, I really do not need to know about your products and services several times a day, everyday. And definitely do not Direct Message me with SPAM unless one of my tweets invited that type of interaction or request for information.
Acknowledge the Shout-Outs and Retweets. We all want to develop a relevant identity with our social media efforts. If someone retweets your thoughts or blogs, thus assisting your branding efforts, please acknowledge their efforts with a Thank You and keep an eye out to provide them the same assistance. I covered some of this in my Power of the Assist post.
Society will generally reward common courtesy. Let’s do our part in our own circles of influence regarding extending and acknowledging courtesy. What is your best anecdote for someone showing you courtesy? We definitely do not want to be perceived on par with this French Guard
I love my wife and two daughters. I am blessed in that I also love my job as a principal and EVP of the Rocky Mountain Region for Mantis Technology Group. I am excited to promote our Pulse Analytics social media monitoring and sentiment analysis solution. I enjoy teaching and coaching. I graduated UT-Austin. You can find Brian on Google+.
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About Brian Vickery
I love my wife and two daughters. I am blessed as a principal and EVP of the Rocky Mountain Region for Mantis Technology Group. I am excited to promote our Pulse Analytics social media monitoring and sentiment analysis solution as well as our software development and business intelligence services. I love football, basketball, tennis, and judo. I graduated UT-Austin.